Does Love really conquer all?
And this love illusion is the love people have in their all romantic affairs which is only based on needs and attraction which would not last for long. Until you are able to satisfy their needs and maintain attraction.
In loving relationships, it’s normal for both people to occasionally sacrifice their own desires, their own needs, and their own time for one another. I would argue that this is normal and healthy and a big part of what makes a relationship so great.
But when it comes to sacrificing one’s self-respect, one’s dignity, one’s physical body, one’s ambitions and life purpose, just to be with someone, then that same love becomes problematic. A loving relationship is supposed to supplement our individual identity, not damage it or replace it. If we find ourselves in situations where we’re tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior, then that’s essentially what we’re doing: we’re allowing our love to consume us and negate us, and if we’re not careful, it will leave us as a shell of the person we once were.
Love is a wonderful experience. It’s one of the greatest experiences life has to offer. And it is something everyone should aspire to feel and enjoy.
But like any other experience, it can be healthy or unhealthy. Like any other experience, it cannot be allowed to define us, our identities or our life purpose. We cannot let it consume us. We cannot sacrifice our identities and self-worth to it. Because the moment we do that, we lose love and we lose ourselves.
Trust can be built again. With some basic principles and the willingness
Rome doesn't build up in a day. Give into some efforts until you both have mutual values of love so you both are soul mate to each other. You deserve for your love.
And for the closing statement....
In fact, in a few cases it's not even able to conquer minor personality differences between a couple.Is Love enough to repair anything in a relationship?
In a lot of cases, it's not able to handle financial stress a couple
may have in their relationship.
In majority of cases, love can't do anything if a couple is unable
to communicate with each other properly.
And in almost all the cases, love is not enough to help someone
overlook the betrayal that comes after infidelity.
People looks for their needs over love, A girl can leave his boyfriend for her financial needs or A boy can leave her girlfriend for better compatibility.
May be that was not pure love but whatever it is, it is the one which people have in their relationship because pure love never happens in short period. Pure love means sacrifices and the happiness you want to see in other person without your self need , that only can be seen in a mother-son relationship. Rest are just the fake love or the love illusion.
And this love illusion is the love people have in their all romantic affairs which is only based on needs and attraction which would not last for long. Until you are able to satisfy their needs and maintain attraction.
When you two have too much difference of maturity, that means you two are not compatible currently. It's love that brings you two to be together, but it's also love separates you two, because when you and her/him are not compatible, being together is merely continually harm each other.
In loving relationships, it’s normal for both people to occasionally sacrifice their own desires, their own needs, and their own time for one another. I would argue that this is normal and healthy and a big part of what makes a relationship so great.
But when it comes to sacrificing one’s self-respect, one’s dignity, one’s physical body, one’s ambitions and life purpose, just to be with someone, then that same love becomes problematic. A loving relationship is supposed to supplement our individual identity, not damage it or replace it. If we find ourselves in situations where we’re tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior, then that’s essentially what we’re doing: we’re allowing our love to consume us and negate us, and if we’re not careful, it will leave us as a shell of the person we once were.
Love is a wonderful experience. It’s one of the greatest experiences life has to offer. And it is something everyone should aspire to feel and enjoy.
But like any other experience, it can be healthy or unhealthy. Like any other experience, it cannot be allowed to define us, our identities or our life purpose. We cannot let it consume us. We cannot sacrifice our identities and self-worth to it. Because the moment we do that, we lose love and we lose ourselves.
OK, I don't mean to be so depressing. So here is something positive for today.
Love, combined with respect, trust and empathy can lead to one
of the most fulfilling and long lasting relationship you have ever
experienced.
Proper communication skills, that often make or break a relationship,
can be learned. It's a skill, just like any other.
Trust can be built again. With some basic principles and the willingness
to make major changes, you can make your partner trust you again; even
if it takes a very long time.
Respect, when lost, can be earned again. But before you can expect someone
else to respect you, you must start respecting yourself.
Rome doesn't build up in a day. Give into some efforts until you both have mutual values of love so you both are soul mate to each other. You deserve for your love.
And for the closing statement....
Tricks, "psychological loopholes", infatuations based on chemicals, and "fake it till you make it"; DO NOT LAST.
- Love
- Trust
- Connection
- Empathy
- Honesty
Connection :
Being clear in what you are saying, and what you need.
Thinking about what you say, and how you will say it, before you speak.
Talking about what is happening to you and how it affects you.
Using ‘I’ statements, like “I feel”, “I need” and “I want”.
Listening to the other person when they talk and trying to understand what they say.
When you are listening to the other person, set aside your own thoughts and feelings, and practice empathy.
Understand that you don’t have to be right all the time, and embrace compromise. Your relationships are more important than always being right.
Empathy :
Empathy is about being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, and understand where they are coming from. It is key to positive relationships.
If you want positive relationships you need to practice empathy, and also have empathy given back.
If you need to practice empathy here are some tricks:
If you need something or want something, ask for it. You will find that people are much more attentive to your needs if you simply ask for things. The added benefit is that you get your needs and wants met without having a fight over them.
Regarding the other person, clearly and kindly explain that if they want or need something, you are more than happy to help, you just need to know what their want or need is.
Mutual respect :
Mutual respect is where both people treat each other in a thoughtful, considerate and courteous way.
This means that you appreciate each other’s opinions, values and wishes. Mutual respect happens when both parties make an effort to not only understand these opinions, values and wishes, but to take them into account when making decisions.
Relationships based on these principles are the ones that really stand the test of time.
Connection :
Being clear in what you are saying, and what you need.
Thinking about what you say, and how you will say it, before you speak.
Talking about what is happening to you and how it affects you.
Using ‘I’ statements, like “I feel”, “I need” and “I want”.
Listening to the other person when they talk and trying to understand what they say.
When you are listening to the other person, set aside your own thoughts and feelings, and practice empathy.
Understand that you don’t have to be right all the time, and embrace compromise. Your relationships are more important than always being right.
Empathy :
Empathy is about being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, and understand where they are coming from. It is key to positive relationships.
If you want positive relationships you need to practice empathy, and also have empathy given back.
If you need to practice empathy here are some tricks:
- Put aside your view, and try and see a situation from someone else’s perspective
- Acknowledge how the other person is feeling (remember acknowledgement is not agreement, it is just stating that you can see a person is feeling a particular thing). e.g.”That must have been really distressing, I can see how upset you are”.
- Shift your attention from your own personal feelings to really listen to what the other person is saying, without leaping to conclusions.
- If you are confused by what someone is saying, ask them to clarify what they are feeling or saying.
If you need something or want something, ask for it. You will find that people are much more attentive to your needs if you simply ask for things. The added benefit is that you get your needs and wants met without having a fight over them.
Regarding the other person, clearly and kindly explain that if they want or need something, you are more than happy to help, you just need to know what their want or need is.
Mutual respect :
Mutual respect is where both people treat each other in a thoughtful, considerate and courteous way.
This means that you appreciate each other’s opinions, values and wishes. Mutual respect happens when both parties make an effort to not only understand these opinions, values and wishes, but to take them into account when making decisions.
Relationships based on these principles are the ones that really stand the test of time.
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